We did speak with an attorney. It wasn’t exactly comforting. Our options are few. We can bring youngest home -but might need a trial to get him there, we can dissolve the adoption,or we can continue with the state as managing conservator until he ages out and we get visitation-maybe. What we cannot do is force the state to do what is right. As of today we have not even been able to talk to our son. Family therapy has not occurred.
Any bets on whether the state will provide the intensive therapy our son most definately needs?
He cannot come home. The risk to the rest of us is simply too high.
I do not know yet what we will do.
Oh yes, we can be assesed child support beyond what we are now paying. At this time his adoption stipend is going back to the state. That may or may not be the case in the future.
In other news our fifteen year old went to winter encampment and graduated! He did this completely by himself. I w a bit worried when I looked over his paperwork and he had himself in the eighth grade and had nonsense numbers as his phone number,but he did just fine. He did forget his boots and his tennis,but managed to run PT in his dress shoes just fine. We are very proud of him.
My husband’s mother is actively dying across the country from us. She is on hospice now. My poor husband is just about at his limit.
I will eventually get back to semi-regular blogging. For now things are still a bit unsettled. My oldest son is borrowing our second car so I am trapped to the internet less house most days. My son needs the car to get back and forth to work etc.( he had been walking the seven miles),he also has his kids and hasn’t been able to go anywhere with them as they are too young to walk a few miles.
Every one else is fine.
Life goes on in spite of heart rending crisis.