sort of an update

Last Thursday I was in on the conference call between some of the parties involved. The night before Youngest called to ask why we were doing this to “Big Guy”. The foster dad was in the background telling my son what to say.
The story is now that my son stabbed one boy in the butt with a cross during horse play” after Thanksgiving. The foster dad was highly inappropriate during the conference call.He denied saying things that were witnessed and blame shifted constantly. His supervisor was suggesting the incident report be changed to satisfy CPS with the new story of events.  Two conversations with CPS occurred afterwords where they told me the foster dad was being internally investigated. They also found a new home for my son and moved him the Friday before Christmas. He is now nearly three hours away from us in a different part of the state. He is in a family home led by a female. I have had no contact with Youngest. We do not have a phone number to call and he has not called us. CPS called me yesterday to tell me he was “doing well”. I asked what would happen next and was told we were going to wait a few months for my son to stabilize and then send him home. I asked what they were doing for my son and they said he would get therapy. It went from everyone being horrified and mentions of another Penn State,to feeling like it was going to be brushed under the rug.

We are going to get an attorney. We are refusing to sign another blessed thing until we do.

In my heart of hearts I think my son did the things originally ascribed to him. He needs much more than simple therapy. I am also afraid there may be a danger to those in the home he is in.

At best, my son blames us for all that has happened and three years of work to build the minute amount of trust with him that had occurred has been destroyed.He will sink even further into the worlds in his own head. He feels we betrayed him.

This is so incredibly,unbelievably wrong.


About lenell

Wife to a very patient man and mom to 8 interesting kids via birth,marriage and adoption. Grandma to nearly 5,nearly perfect grandchildren.
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1 Response to sort of an update

  1. Jeanne says:

    “Wrong” is inadequate to describe this horror. 😦

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