a new day

Well,I laid down the law yesterday. I told my fifteen year old that if I found,or suspected him of using electronics during his school week he would be tomato staked to my side for the foreseeable future. I told him that his brain glitched when it came to electronics and,while not fair,was the way it was-so get over it. I told him the sneaking needed to stop. It was what young children did. It made it impossible for me to trust him. I told him his education was a hill to die over and I was prepared to fight to the bitter end. Yada,yada,yada. I then talked to his “grown” siblings and repeated to them what I had told their little brother. Itold them in no uncertain terms they would no longer undermine my authority by encouraging their little brother to break rules. I reminded them they Knew he was unable to think as well after electronic stimulus and it was extremely sad to me they did not want their brother to have every advantage he could have. I also told them they were free to come up to me if they thought my rules for their brother were unfair. It was what their older siblings had done for them. I told them I would consider what they said and if it seemed reasonable I would listen, if if not I would tell them “nunya” (none of your business). R—— was their dad and I’s responsibility to raise-not theirs. I also told them that the sneaking around was ridiculous at their ages and the lack of respect for me was at an end. If they did not like the rules of the house, there was the door. I did not want them to leave,but, I would not be undermined any more. Yada,yada,yada.
I did not delve into heart issues. I did not delve into abandonment issues. I was not therapeutic.
I was their mom;end of story.
Since that time they have been more respectful,less furtive and no one has played with electronic devises. They have volunteered to do the supper dishes and my fifteen year old offered to clean the fridge for cash.
I’ll take it.
I expect it to work until I am gone again next week for three days. I also expect I will have a fifteen year old glued to my side when and if that happens.
For now though, the atmosphere in my home is more relaxed than it has been in months.The kids are acting as if they have a family again.
These are good things.
Like I said,I’ll take it

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About lenell

Wife to a very patient man and mom to 8 interesting kids via birth,marriage and adoption. Grandma to nearly 5,nearly perfect grandchildren.
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