Well ,we were informed via e-mail late in the day on Thursday that Youngest was going to be placed in a foster home three hours (if there is no traffic) from our home. It is unclear in the e-mail whether it is even a therapeutic home. There was also no mention of the date he was to be moved. We are supposed to maintain our current level of involvement in hopes that he might be returned home. The part of the state they are moving him to is not known for racial harmony. The occasional white sheet still flutters on the line. It is two hours from the nearest city. How many foster parents do you know that will drive two hours to obtain better therapeutic care?
This is wrong. Very wrong.
We made plans to take Youngest out to lunch and to the park for a couple of hours so we could tell him and see him before they move him. We made sure he had our phone numbers. It was a hard visit. He wants to come home.
We have made it very clear to the state we want him to return home. We have made it very clear that this placement is in no shape or form in our son’s best interest. We have made it very clear that we have never refused to have our son in our home. We only went to the department to obtain help in funding his RTC.
We are well aware that our son may not be safe. We are still seeing the many aspects of our son. He is still fragmented. The point is,we understand this about our son. The home he is being sent to does not. We understand he means it when he says something. By the time the next home figures that our it may be too late. Conversely,for the first time in nearly three years this son wants to be in our house and live in our family. For the first time he is looking forward. This gives us something to work with. He deserves this chance. It is wrong not to give it to him.
It is more than wrong for the state to refuse to allow him to return home. They have no rational reason for this refusal.
We need a lawyer and have not a single dollar to spend on one. Our income is too high to be provided with one pro bono.