the other kids

We haven’t hit fall out with the other kids yet. I don’t expect to for another week or so. They have gotten to the point attachment-wise where they are able to wait for their dad and I to regain our footing before they regress back. I know they are affected by their regression in school work and speech patterns. Behaviorally,they have been helpful and haven’t used our grief as an excuse to slide on the rules. They are doing their best to pull together with us as a family to handle a huge loss. After eight and a half years home,they are getting the whole family thing.This doesn’t mean that we won’t have issues over the next few weeks or months. We will. It is part of the dance. Their brother isn’t pleasant to have around, so there is some guilt for not liking him,for feeling relief he isn’t here. CPS involvement ,even at a distance,is very traumatic for them. Rational thought (never strongly held by any of the three) is replaced by emotion.
It is to be expected.
So,the other kids are doing OK. We will get through this as we have always gotten through the hard times. One step at a time.

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About lenell

Wife to a very patient man and mom to 8 interesting kids via birth,marriage and adoption. Grandma to nearly 5,nearly perfect grandchildren.
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One Response to the other kids

  1. Jeanne Holt says:

    Praying for you all.

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