it is beyond ugly. youngest is being moved-but not home

On Monday we went to court and it was ordered for Youngest to return home. There should have been no surprises. There were.
After the standard testimony where Youngest’s history was repeated and the reasons for his going into care (to pay for his residential treatment) were restated for the record, the ad litem requested to approach the bench with the prosecutor. We could only hear bits and pieces of what was told the judge. The CPS worker was just as nonplussed as we were. The order was signed,nevertheless and we were excused. All the ad litem would say when we asked, was that it was not a safety issue. She also would not make eye contact.
Because of this,my husband called the foster dad to touch base before Youngest was to return home (today it should have been) several hours later the foster dad called back in the presence of his supervisor and told my husband that our son had basically sodomized two separate boys on two separate occasions with a wooden cross he made in shop class.It was over some missing money, My husband was told. We were also told that CPS knew and told them that what happens in that home stays there because he (our son) was returning to our home anyway. We were told this happened before Thanksgiving;before he came into our home for a six day visit.
Several nearly hysterical phone calls back ad forth between myself and CPS and my husband and the foster dad and his supervisor occurred.
CPS seemed honestly shocked (but still asked if we wanted him to come home for Christmas!!!). I was told it was too late for charges to be pressed among other things. My husband was given more details that were beyond disturbing. CPS was given the same details and the same time-line. The worker asked if the other child was injured and if he was seen by a doctor. The foster dad told her he “checked the boy out and he was fine” She asked him point blank if the cross was inside the boy and was told yes. She was also told the foster dad had “handled it.” I was told the incident had been called in and an investigation would be started.
My husband called the local (where Youngest is living) police to report a violent crime against a child. Foster dad had Youngest call us to ask why the police were involved. ??????????
It was never reported and it happened twice!!!!!

Yesterday,foster dad and his supervisor completely changed their story. Now it was simply “horseplay” and the cross never entered the other boys’ (now a single boy,not two different ones) butt.The time line has changed and now the incidents were after Thanksgiving instead of before. The supervisor told CPS it was because foster dad was trying to sabotage Youngest son’s return home. The foster dad wanted the money he was making off my son. I asked the CPS worker if anyone had asked my son if he did in fact stick the cross up the other boy. She said she asked him and he told her he did in fact stick the cross “up his butt”. He didn’t think it was a very big deal.
Youngest is being moved. We are under the impression the foster home is being shut down-but I do not know that for a fact. There is an investigation. Hopefully the truth will come out.
Anyway you paint it,it is beyond ugly.
We are physically sick.
We have questions upon questions.
Nothing we are being told is making sense.
How was my son able to disrobe and rape another boy with a cross and no one know? How was he able to do this twice? Why were the police not called and charges pressed? Why was that poor child(ren) not taken the the emergency room to be checked for injuries? Why we not told and youngest allowed to come into our home?
And if this is all a sick fabrication, why? Why would my son nonchalantly admit that he did sodomize (“sicked the cross up his butt”) the other boy like it was no big deal.
How do we keep this from being shoved under the rug?
My son cannot return home if this is true-ever.
He needs significant help or he will be another Hannibal Lector.
If this is fabricated,my son is now being moved to his thirteenth placement in seven years for no reason.
We simply cannot take the risk of bringing him home until we know.

If it is true,and we were not involved,would the foster dad have continued to allow (to encourage???) my son to torture others?After all,who would care? They are just foster kids. They are worse than non-people.

I want to throw up.

I realize I am taking a risk being this open. I do not use names and I do not say which state we are living  in. I hope it is enough.

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